In the name of Allah the Most Gracious
Hi there. as promised, i will now share with u guys bout my wedding list and expenses. May this post help those who wants to get married and still have no idea or pening-pening nak sediakan belanja ^_^
Like most other people, when dah confirmed nak tunang tu, serabut fikir macam-macam benda nak kena buat-for engagement and for marriage. So i made a list. er sumthing like a draft of what to do, the date and expenses. pic below :
If u want to download this messy kawen-draft for your reference
(not much for your ref though), u can click
HERE :)
Ok refer to the draft above, there are some boxes coloured in pink and some arent rite? well the pink highlighted box are for the things that are settled. As u can see i marked them with 'DONE'.
ITEM #1
Kursus kawen tu untuk fadhil je. Sebab i had already went to that course few years ago with friends when i was studying in Unisel.
ITEM #2
Kursus Baitul Muslim ni pulak BUKAN kursus wajib yang Malaysia tetapkan. it's simply a course that elaborate on how to build a Bait-al-Muslim (Rumahtangga Islam), yang betul2 mengikut garis panduan Islam. Dalam kursus tu ada masukkan sekali cara nak didik anak mengikut cara Islam. Dalam kursus-kursus kawen yang JAIS buat tu mcm general je. Ni bukan Kursus yang JAIS buat so korang jangan pulak gi kat JAIS mintak kursus ni :D
ITEM #3
This draft was made before we got engaged lagi. So perbelanjaan tunang pun masuk sekali. perbelanjaan tunang kitorang cuma cincin je. know why? because our engagement is just a simple ceremony between our family only. Not really a ceremony actually. more to makan-makan between families. On that E-day, I just wore a nice cream-soft pink Baju Kurung that was already in my closet. TAKDE tempah/sewa baju baru, TAKDE sewa accessories, TAKDE beli kasut baru, TAKDE sewa pelamin, TAKDE upah tukang mekap, TAKDE hias-hias bilik, TAKDE hantaran-hantaran (just tukar2 buah tangan macam kek and chocolate je). We want it SIMPLE rite? so tadaa! tak payah spend duit banyak-banyak hahaha =D
ITEM #4
Wang Hantaran memang confirm lah tak settle lagi sebab belum nikah :)
The amount pun, doesn't necessarily have to be 10k, 15k, or 5k. Depends lah. In our case, my dad asked Fadhil how much he can give.
Dad said,
"kalau bagi 3k pun pakcik amik, kalau bagi 20k pun pakcik amik. nak bayar sekaligus pun boleh, nak bayar ansur-ansur pun boleh. terpulang pada fadhil mampu mcm mana. kita nak benda ni mudah." (lebih kurang camtulah ayat dad). Alhamdulillah. I thanked Allah for giving me such a great and easy-to-deal-with dad :)
ITEM #5
Mahar is something that is requested by the bride. The bride can ask for anyting! May it be a bungalow, a ransom of maney, acres of land, or just a single Surah from Alquran. But please dear brides, be kind enuff to consider your groom's financial state. hehe. Rasulullah saw kata, lagi murah mahar tu lagi bagus. We don't want to be a burden to our husband-to-be rite? Apa pun dalam soal penetapan mahar ni, bersederhanalah.. asalkan tak bebankan suami takpelah. Hmm about Mahar Negeri tu memang setiap negeri dah tetapkan jumlah maharnya. kalau macam selangor RM300. Tapi benda tu tak wajib i
RASA sebab yelah mahar tu kan pompuan yang kena tetapkan, jadi sukati kite pompuan lah nak berape kan :)
ITEM #6
HIV test ni kena buat 2-3 bulan sebelum nikah kot. sama macam borang nikah tu. You can go to the nearest klinik kerajaan atau hospital kerajaan to do this test. Senang je nak buat benda ni. nurse to tembak je kat jari kite utk setitik-dua darah. pastu terus check and dapat result time tu jugak. Tapi waktu aku buat tu sakit tau! sebab diorang gune jarum yg dalam. sampai lebam berhari-hari jari aku isk
T_T
ITEM #7
Borang nikah buleh amek 3 bulan sebelum nikah. Aku rase
LECEH gile nak nikah becoz of isi-isi borang ni!. korang kawen nanti korang raselah -_-
ITEM#8
Hantaran. we spent a lot of money for hantaran. beli macam-macam. tapi total cost for hantaran belum ada lagi sebab ade lagi yang belum beli (foods). 1 of the hantaran for me-which is a watch, is actually a present from my parents. suke sangat! thanks Ummi and Abah
(dah jimat duit tak payah beli heh heh)
Hantaran Tak WAJIB pun sebenarnye. tak payah buat pun takpe. Mula-mula i plan tamo buat hantaran pun. rase cam membazir and ofcos malas nak gubah (super-lazy-pengantin-to-be). But then fadhil said
"buatlah paling sikit pun". Hmm mungkin tradisi melayu kite mesti nak ade hantaran kan. jadi mungkin ada sesetengah pihak (biasenye dikalangan saudara-mara) akan mengata bile tradisi tu diabaikan
(-_-')
ITEM #9
For wedding attire + accessories, we decided not to rent. for baju Fadhil, tempah
Nehru Suit kaler off-white. Accessories-takde. For me pulak beli dan tempah, tengok list dibawah:
Fadhil's Nehru Suit
(PKNS Shah Alam)- RM300
Wedding Gown
(Subang)- RM200
Wedding Coat
(Jakel Shah Alam)- beli kain RM53 + tempah RM65 =RM118
Accessories (Wedding veil, Crown, Necklace
-buy online)= RM134
Bride's Shoes
(Plaza Alam Sentral Shah Alam) = RM80
Alhamdulillah, everything beli dan tempah pun kurang dari RM1000~
ITEM #10
Makeup ni im kind of cerewet sikit. Because nak tukang mekap yang betul-betul faham dan pandai. I don't want a heavy make-up like all the brides nowadays. I want a natural yet sweet and nice make-up. I dont want to be make-up by Maknyah, I don't want to cabut kening, I don't want to wear fake longer eye-lashes, I don't want a red burning cheek, I don't want a mekap yg buat muka shining-shining hehe. I don't want a doll face on my Important day. Tukang mekap cakap, biasanya pelanggan diorang purposely minta supaya buat muka diorang nampak lain pada hari kawen tu. OK dah faham kenapa muka pengantin selalu lain dari hari-hari biasa. Harap tukang mekap yang aku hire ni yang terbaik. ameen.
ITEM #11
walimah pihak lelaki masih tak confirm. so no komen.
ITEM #12
Doorgift pun bukan perkara WAJIB. takde termasuk dalam hukum Islam. Both of my sisters takde buat doorgift pun masa dorg kawen. Aku buat ni pun saje2 je nak bg hadiah kecik2 kat kawan2 yang hadir :)
tapi memang taknak makan belanja banyak. If you want to cut cost for your marriage, tak payah buat doorgift pun ok :)
ITEM #13
About wedding card, i have elaborated in the last post :
kad kawen
Info tambahan: this is the link to the my wedding card's design and website yang buat kad aku:
http://www.kadkahwin.com
ITEM #14
In my case, takde spend banyak pun untuk bilik pengantin. I just bought kain untuk curtains. comforter set abah tanggung. hehe tangs abah :)
So thats all for my expenses on marriage. Takdelah belanje banyak sangat kan? aha on my wedding day, tak ada hire photographer (my bro and bro-in-law will do the job inshaAllah hehe), takde hire DJ, takde buat pelamin, takde hire budak kompang..
uh semua takde? betul ke wedding ni? hehe.
i really go for a simple wedding InshaAllah. err adat melayu memang takde. We just held a wedding reception with soft instrumental music on background InshaAllah. takde buat persandingan, maka tiada juga renjis2 tepung tawar tu. Masa reception tu pengantins just dtg makan and jumpa guests. thats all.
ah.. i think i dont want to wear inai on my wedding. hope takde sape yang nak fuss over that matter ;)
ok that's all for my wedding plan. Actually ada je orang yang
jauh lebih simple dari wedding plan ni. maybe we can ask those yang lebih simple untuk share :)
SELAMAT PENGANTIN BARU to all newly-wed couple. May Allah grant you both His blessings now in the dunya and hereafter InshaAllah.
May Allah bless you!
Love,
