err.. ENGAGED??

In the name of Allah the most merciful

After the families meeting, I asked fadhil about her mother’s , father’s and sister’s opinion on me and my family. His father’s and sister’s responds were positive. But for the mother, she still didn’t give the answer. Fadhil said, she just smiled.

The next day fadhil told me that her mother got good impressions on me. Alhamdulillah. But still not very sure whether she give the green light or not. I asked fadhil what were her mother’s expectations before meeting me. He said, her mother said:

“nak tengoklah ana ni pakai tudung ke tak, solat ke tak, baik budi pekerti ke tak…”

Expectations mak mertua selalunya ni je ek? Kalau ni je kan bagus.. senang sikit hehe. Actually im afraid if one day when im married, I cant get along well with my in-law. Ramai org yg hubungan dengan mak mertua tak berape baik…takut jugak nak berhadapan dengan situasi macam tu..

Huhu… May Allah make everything easy for me…

Kesimpulannye after the meeting of both families, me and fadhil concluded that both families had agreed to let us get married. For now Me and fadhil also agreed to take our relationship as ‘ENGAGED’, so that if anyone approach me or him, we can just tell them that we’re engaged. Its easier to turn down people’s proposal this way, because you have the strong reason to turn it down-which is engaged. Sebelum ni aku agak susah nak say NO bile org approach. Sebabnye rase tak sampai hati. Tapi sekarang dah rase senang hati nak say NO ^_^

ENGAGED-is not a special period. Selagi tak nikah, sama je. Kene jage hubungan antara lelaki dan perempuan.. engaged-tak membolehkan kite untuk g dating pun.. atau bergayut setiap malam, atau ber-sayang-sayangan atau bersentuh-sentuhan atau ber-smoochies smoochies. jadi, soalan cepumas.. nape ramai org suke wat majlis bertunang yang meriah2? Kadang2 nampak da macam majlis org kawen. Wow. Maybe they have their own reasons or gaya berfikir yang berbeza.. Hmm mungkin juge majlis tu mcm untuk meraikan hari yang menggembirakan dan lebih kurang mcm kesyukuran? (kena buat soal selidik untuk tahu). As for me, I think its better not to waste so much money into that, and instead save it for your BIG DAY-hari kawen. If your money is melimpah ruah pun kan, its better to save it for ur future big-family-to-be.

Actually I told fadhil that I taknak bertunang. But if family dy insist, then I will follow their wish. Many people might ask me, WHY TAKNAK TUNANG?? Even my besties pun kata bertunang jelah~

Bertunang tak salah disisi Islam. Tak salah langsung. The reason is just ME. I think it’s too TROUBLESOME nak buat majlis bertunang. Nak ada sarung2 cincin, pakai baju cantik2, etc… I don’t see any need to do that. I really don’t like to tire myself out for such buang-mase-things. Moreover, tak suke pakai cincin. Nanti nak amik wudhu’, nak basuh pinggan ape sumer tu kene bukak cincin. Then bile da siap, terlupe la pulak nak pakai balik. Pastu cincin pun ilang…~

So last2 both of us decided camni. If fadhil’s family insist nak bertunang, ok boleh bertunang.. tapi tak ikut adat org melayu bertunang. Maksudnye takyah wat majlis2. Just between family, takde baju2 cantik atau pelamin what-so-ever, err cincin tu pn kalo dpt tak pakai kot-so beli cincin murah je.  Pastu takde hantaran2 langsung. Kire dtg bwk cincin je. Simple rite? Yeah I loike! Hehe.

Daaa. Enuff for now. Wassalam!

May Allah bless you! 


 love, 
The princess