Kahwin Islamic Do's and Dont's

In the name of Allah the Almighty


On my wedding day...

• I didn't put on Inai (henna) kat kuku. kalau pengantin pompuan pun tak pakai inai, apetah lagi pengantin laki.
• No pelamin
• No tepung tawar
• No bunga telur
• No budak kompang
• Hantaran 5 balas 5 (kalo ikut adat pompuan kena balas 2 dulang lebih dari lelaki)
• No sirih junjung
• During solemnization (akad nikah) pengantin lelaki tak baca lafaz takliq

Based on above points.. Most of the things were not done like many typical malay wedding's did. So ramai juga yang tanya kenapa, dan boleh ke buat macam tu. especially bab inai tu. Mereka tanya "kenapa tak pakai inai.."

Hehe..

 Mungkin ramai yang dah confuse yang mana adat, yang mana agama.. A friend of mine asked me to share about the do's and don'ts in Islamic marriage. Kita MUSLIM, haruslah berkahwin mengikut syara'.. bukan mengikut adat. Islam adalah gaye hidup, jadi memang kene ikutlah ape yg Islam dah tetapkan dalam 'gaya hidup'. 

Masa saya kawen, saya memang sengaja taknak pakai inai. sengaja balas hantaran sama banyak dengan pihak lelaki. Sebabnya saya nak lain dari yang lain. Saya nak masyarakat tahu yang tak semestinya kawen kena pakai inai, dan sebagainya. yelah, disebabkan kebiasaan orang kawen pakai inai, jadi ramai yang dah menganggap pakai inai itu adelah kewajipan.

So ape pun,  here let me share a little knowledge of mine regarding this matter:

1. INAI di kuku -hanya adat melayu. Sunnah Rasulullah s.a.w pakai inai kat rambut je. inai corak2 kat tangan tu pun takde nabi buat.
2. BERSANDING - berdose kalau buat sebab memperagakan. kalau nak buat PELAMIN untuk nak bergambar sesame family sahaje takpelah.
3. TEPUNG TAWAR - kurafat. Orang melayu zaman dulu buat tepung tawar ni dengan tujuan nak halau sial. amalan ni kurafat. So kalau korang takde niat dan tujuan utk menghalau sial tu, buat ape nak menepung tawar lagi. takde gune buat mende alah tu. Perhatian: Sila jauhi Perkara2 yang dimurkai Allah utnuk mendapatkan keberkatan rumahtangga kelak.
4. BUNGA TELUR - bukan sunnah. kire macam buah tangan lah jadi kalau nak bagi, boleh. taknak bagi pun takpe. Kalau nak ganti bunga telur dengan door gift lain pun boleh. takde masalah.
5. BUDAK KOMPANG - Budaya arab zaman nabi s.a.w dulu ada buat muzik2 untuk meraikan pengantin. jadi tak salah kalau nk panggil budak kompang untuk majlis korang.
6. HANTARAN - jumlah dulang hantaran yang nak bagi tu ikut sukati koranglah. tak kesah nak bagi berapa2 pun. Pemberian hantaran ni tak termasuk dalam hukum islam, cuma diberi sebagai hadiah. jadi kalau taknak bagi langsung pun tak ape je.
7. SIRIH JUNJUNG - ni cume adat org dolu-dolu. takde dalam Islam. Takyah bagi pun takpe.
8. LAFAZ TAKLIQ - Lafaz takliq ni dibaca masa akad nikah. Kebanyakan orang menganggap bende ni wajib dan kena baca kuat-kuat oleh pengantin laki. Tapi sebenarnye terpulang pada korang nak lafaz ke tak. RISIKO untuk melafazkan atau tidak melafazkan adalah dibawah tanggungan sendiri. Dalam rukun nikah takdepun lafaz takliq. so boleh tinggalkan kalau mahu.
9. TABARRUJ - ini lagi satu perkara yang diharamkan dalam islam. iaitu berlebih-lebihan. kepada pengantin perempuan, jangan berlawa lebih-lebihan..dosa tahu...
10. BERSEDERHANA - Last but not least, bersederhanalah dalm nak buat majlis kawen ni.. jangan membazir, Allah tak suke :)

oh ye nak share satu citer. On my wedding day kan i ade hire sorang tukang mekap. pompuan. i told her that i want a natural makeup. "saya nak mekap yang natural tp sweet, yang tak mengubah muka asli saya. saya taknak nampak macam orang lain. nak muka saya", i said. she said ok lah kan. Dia memang pandai mekap, sebab dia tu makeup artist.. tapi lepas dia habis mekap aku pun tengoklah cermin. Ya Allah! lain sesangat muka aku.. mekap yang tebal, macam pengantin biasa mekap tu..dengan shading buat hidung mancung bagai.. kawan2 aku sume puji2 mekap kakak tu cantik.. tapi aku tak suke.. tebal sangat bagi aku. aku mintak dia padam mana yang patut.. lepas dah padam2, aku masih macam tak puas hati lagi sebab muke aku masih nampak pelik.. lepas beberapa kali dia adjust, aku kesian lah tengok kakak tu so aku kata "Ok dah ni". then bayarlah kakak tu and kakak mekap tu pun balik.. sebelum balik kakak tu cakap first time dapat customer macam aku. cerewet sangat kot huhu. Lepas dia balik je... aku padam2 balik mekap tu.. and aku touchup balik seniri... barulah puas hati sket walaupun tak berapa puas hati.. Aku tak sanggup nak keluar dengan mekap yang berat tu. MALU. itu bukan diri aku.

kesimpulan yang aku nak buat kat sini ialah, tegakkan dan pertahankan diri dan cara korang sekiranya korang benar. kadang2 korang mungkin akan dapat mak andam yang suke nak pakse dan tentukan cara nak mekap korang. contohnya mak andam tu akan insist nak cukur/cabut kening korang, insist nak letak blusher tebal2 sampai nampak macam orang demam, dan sebagainya. tapi kalau korang taknak, bertegaslah dengan pendirian korang. korang bos, bukan mak andam yang bos. Tapi aku syukurlah dapat mak andam yang baik and faham. kalo mak andam degil nak cukur kening, korang bagitau kat mak andam tu dengan tegas yang "cukur/cabut kening tu BERDOSA. Saya taknak sama2 tanggung dosa dengan akak."

Ok sampai sini je... harap ia dapat menjawab persoalan awak.. tapi jike ade yang tertinggal atau kurang jelas atau tak paham langsung atau masih nak tanye, silakan :)

Moga bermanfaat

May Allah bless you! 


 Love,

Blessed to be his Wife :)

In the name of Allah the most gracious


Alhamdulillah.. Alhamdulillah.. Alhamdulillah.. Allahu Akbar!

on 2nd of October 2011 we were solemnized.. with 1 lafaz, "Aku terima nikah Asma' binti Azizuddin dengan mas kahwin RM 300 tunai" ~ we were tied as husband and wife. praise to Allah for making these easy for us. Alhamdulillah.

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Dan hari ini 24 November 2011, aku telah menjadi isterinya yang sah selama 1 bulan 22 hari. Setiap hari yang  aku lalui bersamanya adalah madu buatku. terlalu manis dan istimewa! Allah... hanya Allah yang tahu betapa aku bahagia disampingnya.. betapa aku bersyukur menjadi miliknya..Subhanallah..

Alhamdulillah selama hampir 2 bulan aku bergelar isteri, aku masih belum merasa pahit sebuah kehidupan.. hanya manis.. dan aku amat berharap semoga manis itu terus berkekalan hingga bila-bila pun.. Aku amat sangat bersyukur pada Allah kerana menjodohkan aku dengan Fadhil bin Ismail.. seorang hamba Allah yang soleh, seorang anak yang soleh, seorang suami yang soleh.. sungguh, suamiku amat baik! sangat baik terhadapku... sangat sangat sangat baik dan membahagiakan sehingga aku tertanya tanya pada Allah, kebaikan apakah yang aku telah lakukan sehingga Allah menghadiahi aku seorang suami bernama Fadhil bin Ismail.. kebaikan apakah yg telah aku buat sampai Allah berikan pada aku seorang suami yang sangat baik.. Allah... Aku terasa amat bersyukur hingga tumpahnya air mataku keharuan.. keharuan yang amat sangat!.. Allah maha hebat! nikmat Allah Maha besar!

Subhanallah.. Aturan yang maha Esa benar2 membuat aku bersujud syukur.. Bila aku tengok suamiku melayan aku dengan sangat baik, aku terasa macam tidak layaknya aku jadi isteri dia.. justeru aku bernekad untuk jadi lebih baik, lebih solehah untuknya, aku ingin membahagiakan dia lebih dari kebahagiaan yang dia berikan pada aku.. kerana aku teramat sayang dan cinta padanya..

Allah..Maha suci Allah.. aku menunduk kerdil padamu.. nikmat yang engkau berikan amat besar sehingga aku merasa malu tidak cukup bersyukur padamu.. aku merasa malu tidak cukup solehah sebagai hambamu.. Allah ampuni aku atas segala silap dan dosa.. sesungguhnya nikmat yang Allah berikan pada ku ini telah menyedarkan aku, menepuk aku untuk jadi hambaNYA yang lebih baik..

Alhamdulillah.. Alhamdulillahi rabbil 'alamin... Allah, berikan kami hidayah yang tidak putus-putus agar kami tidak pernah berhenti bersujud syukur padamu.. Ya Allah jadikan pernikahan kami ini sebagai jambatan untuk kami menuju kepadamu.. agar kami semakin dekat padamu.. Ya Allah jadikan cinta kami pad Akhirat lebih besar dari dunia dan isinya.. Ya Allah peliharalah rumahtangga kami dan panjangkanlah cinta kami hingga ke syurgamu.. daripadamu kami datang dan kepadamu jualah kami pergi.. Amen ya rabbal 'alamin.

Sayang,
Aku akan cuba sedaya upayaku untuk membahagiakanmu
akan ku cuba yang sedaya termampu untuk menjadi isterimu yang solehah..
Ini janjiku!



May Allah bless you! 


 Love,

taken :)

In the name of Allah the most gracious


Hey guys, Im TAKEN! =) Alhamdulillah, praise be to Allah.. on 2nd of October, we were solemnized at Masjid  At-Taqwa, desa subang permai. Taknak cerita panjang coz we are busy packing for our get-a-way to Bukit Tinggi hihi!

Gudbye!

May Allah bless you!

 Love,

Our Hall and Reception's music to share :)

In the name of Allah the Almighty


hey guys.

InshaAllah am gonna get married in a month time. Yay! tak saba giler.  As for the venue, inshaAllah we're going to have our reception at a community hall ( Dewan Pudina-hakmilik MBSA). Sad to say, the dewan is not equipped with aircond :(. but its located on quite a high ground so kindof breezy jugaklah. lucky.
yelah, taknaklah dewan yg panas, we pengantins kan pakai baju yg tebal/berlapis, then nak jumpe ramai2 orang. RIMASSSS-PANASSSS ok. so i prefer dewan yg sejuk je :). lebih selesa nak greet all the tetamus. Dan tetamus juge lebih selesa nak makan-makan serta bergambar dengan pengantin. hehheh ;D

Our reception won't take forever. only 2 hours. from 12.30-2.30. Im glad abah decided to end the reception at 2.30. so that we wont rush-rush sgt nak kejar waktu zuhur. The menu for reception...errr i dunno. tu semua keje abah. Abah yg decide nak amek catering mane, makan ape tu sume. I will just follow je :)

During the 2hours reception, cadangnye nak sewa a PA system. i dont want a DJ. just nak play lagu je. taknak ade org cakap2 tu. And for the music, i choose to go for the soft instrumental music. takde org nyanyi-nyanyi. My plan is to create a soothing atmosphere for my reception. :)

So guys, you can try listening to my list of reception's music by downloading it HERE :)

If you are free, do Drop me a comment after listening. EnjoY! :)



May Allah bless you! 

Love,

wedding list + expenses

In the name of Allah the Most Gracious


Hi there. as promised, i will now share with u guys bout my wedding list and expenses. May this post help those who wants to get married and still have no idea or pening-pening nak sediakan belanja ^_^

Like most other people, when dah confirmed nak tunang tu, serabut fikir macam-macam benda nak kena buat-for engagement and for marriage. So i made a list. er sumthing like a draft of what to do, the date and expenses. pic below :

If u want to download this messy kawen-draft for your reference (not much for your ref though), u can click HERE :)

Ok refer to the draft above, there are some boxes coloured in pink and some arent rite? well the pink highlighted box are for the things that are settled. As u can see i marked them with 'DONE'.

ITEM #1
Kursus kawen tu untuk fadhil je. Sebab i had already went to that course few years ago with friends when i was studying in Unisel.

ITEM #2
Kursus Baitul Muslim ni pulak BUKAN kursus wajib yang Malaysia tetapkan. it's simply a course that elaborate on how to build a Bait-al-Muslim (Rumahtangga Islam), yang betul2 mengikut garis panduan Islam. Dalam kursus tu ada masukkan sekali cara nak didik anak mengikut cara Islam. Dalam kursus-kursus kawen yang JAIS buat tu mcm general je. Ni bukan Kursus yang JAIS buat so korang jangan pulak gi kat JAIS mintak kursus ni :D

ITEM #3
This draft was made before we got engaged lagi. So perbelanjaan tunang pun masuk sekali. perbelanjaan tunang kitorang cuma cincin je. know why? because our engagement is just a simple ceremony between our family only. Not really a ceremony actually. more to makan-makan between families. On that E-day, I just wore a nice cream-soft pink Baju Kurung that was already in my closet. TAKDE tempah/sewa baju baru, TAKDE sewa accessories,  TAKDE beli kasut baru, TAKDE sewa pelamin, TAKDE upah tukang mekap, TAKDE hias-hias bilik, TAKDE hantaran-hantaran (just tukar2 buah tangan macam kek and chocolate je). We want it SIMPLE rite? so tadaa! tak payah spend duit banyak-banyak hahaha =D

ITEM #4
Wang Hantaran memang confirm lah tak settle lagi sebab belum nikah :)
The amount pun, doesn't necessarily have to be 10k, 15k, or 5k. Depends lah. In our case, my dad asked Fadhil how much he can give.
Dad said,  "kalau bagi 3k pun pakcik amik, kalau bagi 20k pun pakcik amik. nak bayar sekaligus pun boleh, nak bayar ansur-ansur pun boleh. terpulang pada fadhil mampu mcm mana. kita nak benda ni  mudah." (lebih kurang camtulah ayat dad). Alhamdulillah. I thanked Allah for giving me such a great and easy-to-deal-with dad :)

ITEM #5
Mahar is something that is requested by the bride. The bride can ask for anyting! May it be a bungalow, a ransom of maney, acres of land, or just a single Surah from Alquran. But please dear brides, be kind enuff to consider your groom's financial state. hehe. Rasulullah saw kata, lagi murah mahar tu lagi bagus. We don't want to be a burden to our husband-to-be rite? Apa pun dalam soal penetapan mahar ni, bersederhanalah.. asalkan tak bebankan suami takpelah. Hmm about Mahar Negeri tu memang setiap negeri dah tetapkan jumlah maharnya. kalau macam selangor RM300. Tapi benda tu tak wajib i RASA sebab yelah mahar tu kan pompuan yang kena tetapkan, jadi sukati kite pompuan lah nak berape kan :)

ITEM #6
HIV test ni kena buat 2-3 bulan sebelum nikah kot. sama macam borang nikah tu. You can go to the nearest klinik kerajaan atau hospital kerajaan to do this test. Senang je nak buat benda ni. nurse to tembak je kat jari kite utk setitik-dua darah. pastu terus check and dapat result time tu jugak. Tapi waktu aku buat tu sakit tau! sebab diorang gune jarum yg dalam. sampai lebam berhari-hari jari aku isk T_T

ITEM #7
Borang nikah buleh amek 3 bulan sebelum nikah. Aku rase LECEH gile nak nikah becoz of isi-isi borang ni!. korang kawen nanti korang raselah -_-

ITEM#8
Hantaran. we spent a lot of money for hantaran. beli macam-macam. tapi total cost for hantaran belum ada lagi sebab ade lagi yang belum beli (foods). 1 of the hantaran for me-which is a watch,  is actually a present from my parents. suke sangat! thanks Ummi and Abah (dah jimat duit tak payah beli heh heh)
Hantaran Tak WAJIB pun sebenarnye. tak payah buat pun takpe. Mula-mula i plan tamo buat hantaran pun. rase cam membazir and ofcos malas nak gubah (super-lazy-pengantin-to-be). But then fadhil said "buatlah paling sikit pun". Hmm mungkin tradisi melayu kite mesti nak ade hantaran kan. jadi mungkin ada sesetengah pihak (biasenye dikalangan saudara-mara) akan mengata bile tradisi tu diabaikan (-_-')

ITEM #9
For wedding attire + accessories, we decided not to rent. for baju Fadhil, tempah Nehru Suit kaler off-white. Accessories-takde. For me pulak beli dan tempah, tengok list dibawah:

Fadhil's Nehru Suit (PKNS Shah Alam)- RM300
Wedding Gown (Subang)- RM200
Wedding Coat (Jakel Shah Alam)- beli kain RM53 + tempah RM65 =RM118
Accessories (Wedding veil, Crown, Necklace -buy online)= RM134
Bride's Shoes (Plaza Alam Sentral Shah Alam) = RM80

Alhamdulillah, everything beli dan tempah pun kurang dari RM1000~

ITEM #10
Makeup ni im kind of cerewet sikit. Because nak tukang mekap yang betul-betul faham dan pandai. I don't want a heavy make-up like all the brides nowadays. I want a natural yet sweet and nice make-up. I dont want to be make-up by Maknyah, I don't want to cabut kening, I don't want to wear fake longer eye-lashes, I don't want a red burning cheek, I don't want a mekap yg buat muka shining-shining hehe. I don't want a doll face on my Important day. Tukang mekap cakap, biasanya pelanggan diorang purposely minta supaya buat muka diorang nampak lain pada hari kawen tu. OK dah faham kenapa muka pengantin selalu lain dari hari-hari biasa. Harap tukang mekap yang aku hire ni yang terbaik. ameen.

ITEM #11
walimah pihak lelaki masih tak confirm. so no komen.

ITEM #12
Doorgift pun bukan perkara WAJIB. takde termasuk dalam hukum Islam. Both of my sisters takde buat doorgift pun masa dorg kawen. Aku buat ni pun saje2 je nak bg hadiah kecik2 kat kawan2 yang hadir :)
tapi memang taknak makan belanja banyak. If you want to cut cost for your marriage, tak payah buat doorgift pun ok :)

ITEM #13
About wedding card, i have elaborated in the last post : kad kawen
Info tambahan: this is the link to the my wedding card's design and website yang buat kad aku: http://www.kadkahwin.com

ITEM #14
In my case, takde spend banyak pun untuk bilik pengantin. I just bought kain untuk curtains. comforter set abah tanggung. hehe tangs abah :)

So thats all for my expenses on marriage. Takdelah belanje banyak sangat kan? aha on my wedding day, tak ada hire photographer (my bro and bro-in-law will do the job inshaAllah hehe), takde hire DJ, takde buat pelamin, takde hire budak kompang..

uh semua takde? betul ke wedding ni? hehe.

i really go for a simple wedding InshaAllah. err adat melayu memang takde. We just held a wedding reception with soft instrumental music on background InshaAllah. takde buat persandingan, maka tiada juga renjis2 tepung tawar tu. Masa reception tu pengantins just dtg makan and jumpa guests. thats all.

ah.. i think i dont want to wear inai on my wedding. hope takde sape yang nak fuss over that matter ;)

ok that's all for my wedding plan. Actually ada je orang yang jauh lebih simple dari wedding plan ni. maybe we can ask those yang lebih simple untuk share :)

SELAMAT PENGANTIN BARU to all newly-wed couple. May Allah grant you both His blessings now in the dunya and hereafter InshaAllah.


May Allah bless you! 


 Love,

kad kawen~sederhana aje

In the name of Allah the almighty


Alhamdulillah kad kawen dah siap!!!
dah seminggu lebih siap sebenarnye. inshaAllah isnin ni mule pos.
our wedding card tak mahal pun. 55cents per card. color black n white. theme:classic. kekerasan kad ok, semua pn ok lah. But we didnt order special envelope for the cards. becoz if do so harga tambah sikit. we thought that that would be a waste of money. Masuk tong sampah jugak last2 kan anyway? Yang sampul tu pulak bile org nak bukak, confirm koyak. And takde kot org nak simpan dah sampul tu.

cut the cost. yeah, go for the 'simple yet nice'. Bersederhanalah bile nak kawen ni. Dalam islam suruh kita bersederhana. tapi if fikir logic pun, why shud spend such a big amount of money for a few hours/a day wedding? better if u save the money for your honeymoon atau untuk kegunaan selepas kawen. nak mula hidup lepas kawen ni pn banyak guna duit. nak beli RUMAH. KERETA. FURNITURES. HOUSEHOLD. etc...

So guys, tak perlu lah runsing fikir blanje yg terlaaaaaaaaaaalu banyak untuk wedding ni. but tak banyak tu pn quite a sum of money jugaklah. tapi OK lah. affordable. Later i'll share with u all bout my wedding, the blanje,  the preparation and so on ok. :)

oh ya, setem dah mahal lah skg ni. i heard that for wedding card with sampul berwarna kena charge 80cents. while for white envelope kena 60cents. yaww. dulu2 3posen je -___-

btw, princess dah ade signature. tgk bawah =D


May Allah bless you!


Love,

Kawen EXPRESS!

In the name of Allah the most gracious


Joyah: Aku suke naik bus express, cepat sampai destinasi.
Markonah: Aku suke KAWEN EXPRESS, cepat dapat kekasih halal.
Joyah: hah? *speechless*

Ape motif conversation diatas? takde motif sebenarnya! haha.
am about to tell u about 'kawen express' actually.
so soalannya, apakah itu 'kawen Express'?
'Kawen Express' sebenarnya adalah terms yang aku reka sendiri. ia membawe maksud


'kawen cepat-cepat'.

yesterday i went to 'spring beauty centre' to do some facial treatment. i used to go there. the women who used to tend to me called yuki. while yuki did my face, we chatted. i told her that im going to get married this october. i also told her that:

i met my fiance the first time ever in february this year. before that very moment, we never knew each other's existence.
in april we got engaged.
then in october we're gonna get married.

Yuki was shocked

"hah! cepatnya sudah mau kawin!" she said.

hahaha i laughed. well yuki's not the only person who said that to me. macam2 lah komen kawan2 bila tau tetibe je aku nak kawen

"hah baru jumpe febuari dah nk kawen?"
"tak takut ke terus nak kawen?"

dan lain-lain....

yuki dan kawan2 sekalian, i chose this path because i want 'kawen express'. hehe.
like i told u, we got engaged 2 months after we knew each other. and inshaAllah we're gonna get married 5 months after we got engaged (engage mase akhir bulan 4, nak kawen awal bulan 10).
everything went on quite in a fast pace kan? tahu tak kenapa?
sebab kami bertemu dan berkenalan untuk kahwin. bukan untuk berkapel atau berkawan.

Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah Allah buka kan jalan yang baik buat kami. Alhamdulillah Allah temukan kami untuk berkahwin. Bukankah lebih baik jumpa dan terus kawen berbanding dgn jumpe dan kawan2 kapel2 dulu 2-3 tahun baru nak kawen. kan? Jalan untuk kawen cepat2 tu lebih selamat dan diredhai inshaAllah.

jadi kawan-kawan, saya nak menyeru kepade semua, janganlah tunggu lama-lama, kawan lama-lama. Cepat-cepatlah jadikan hubungan anda dan kekasih gelap anda HALAL!

Mari bernikah!
Allah Suka, Anda pun suka :)


May Allah bless you!

 love,
The princess

Tarbiyah Ramadhan

In the name of Allah the most gracious


Hi there peeps! Ramadhan datang lagi!

Alhamdulillah berkatNYA, aku bertemu lagi dengan ramadhan kali ini. Bila masuk bulan Ramadhan, kerinduan dan semangat untuk beramal yang meluap-luap.. Aku rindu kan ramadhan. Terasa macam nak menangis bila Ramadhan sampai padaku. Alhamdulillah..Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah..!

R.A.M.A.D.H.A.N ~ bukanlah hanya sekadar tuntutan untuk berpuasa.. tetapi ia adalah satu bulan pentarbiyahan untuk kita. puasa lapar dan dahaga, juga puasa dari melakukan perkara2 yang berdosa.

Yang paling COMMON untuk kebanyakan orang adalah berpuasa dari berkata-kata perkara yang tak baik. to be specific- puasa dari MENGUMPAT dan MENGATA dan MENGADU DOMBA dan lain2 lah.

awak tahu! ramai sangattt yang masuk neraka kerana MULUT. ya nowadays mengumpat itu adalah suatu hobi. dan juga suatu kewajipan bg manusia.

Let me share sumthing. I am 23 and now working as a teacher in an islamic primary school since january this year. when i was 18, during the long break after SPM, i also worked as a substitute teacher in Sekolah Rendah Kebangsaan. 1 thing i learned after being a teacher is : GURU-GURU SUKA MENGUMPAT.
no kidding. thats the truth. i actually learned that truth even before working as a teacher, it was actually when i was in secondary school. dan dalam bilik guru tu cekgu-cekgu aku suka mengumpat! dan masa aku mula bekerja sebagai cikgu ganti di satu skolah tu, memang betul lah cikgu2 ni suke mengumpat dalam bilik guru. i hated the environment much. sampai rasa macam 'aku benci jadi cikgu sebab aku tak suke environment yang suke mengumpat'. but then after dah habis study kat uni, again i walk along the path of a teacher. i love teaching very much. so lagi sekali aku lihat guru-guru yang suka mengumpat.

Bila berada dalam suasana tu, kita jadi takut akan terikut-ikut.. takut akan menerima perbuatan mengumpat itu sebagai perbuatan biasa dan tidak terasa berdosa lagi.. takut akan tenggelam dalam dunia mengumpat. Astaghfirullahal'Adzim... tuhan ampuni aku, lindungi aku dari GHIBAH. tak dinafikan, kadang2 aku mula terikut conversation mereka yang berisi umpatan.. bila tersedar, cepat2 hentikan dan tarik diri dari conversation tu.

Sebenarnya bukan setakat guru-guru..tapi dimana-mana pun orang suke mengata, suka menyalahkan orang lain, dan suke bersangka buruk.. mungkin termasuk diri kita juga tanpa kita sedar.. Astaghfirullah...

oleh itu, let us start anew for this coming Ramadhan. jadi insan yang baru. biarkan Ramadhan menTarbiyah kita!

Selamat Maju Jaya kawan-kawan! =D



May Allah bless you! 


 love, 
The princess

RED FLAG

In the name of Allah the most merciful


i just read an article from this website--> http://www.al-adib.net/archives/442

'RED FLAG' Allah kibar bilamana kita telah melebihi garisan yg Allah tetapkan. itu tandanya kita sedang di dalam zon bahaya. bila kita dah berada di dalam zon merah, maka cepat2 lah kembali ke zon hijau.. sebelum terlambat...


May Allah bless you! 


 love, 
The princess

3 idiots!

in the name of Allah the most merciful

guys, rite now am feeling soooo excited. i've just finished watching '3 idiots'. and really, thumb's up for that movie. best gillllerrrrr haha. this story is actually about this man, named Rancchoddas Shamaldas Chanchad "Rancho"-starred by Aamir khan. this guy is very genius and 'Free-Minded'. what i mean by free-minded here, is his mind and way of thinking tu tak terikat dan creative. he wont memorize the definitions from the books. instead he will use his own words and way of thinking to describe it in a simpler way. he loves knowledge so much, that the purpose of him studying, goin' to university is just because he loves knowledges and wants to grab on it. if nak tau full plot/synopsis cite ni, click here: 3 idiots' synopsis. inshaAllah i will tell u later kalau rajin ape yang aku excited sangat nih hehe.
Rancho memang Cool. awesome! ^_^



May Allah bless you!

love,
The princess

Dedicated to ummi and abah

For all those times you stood by me
For all the truth that you made me see
For all the joy you brought to my life
For all the wrong that you made right
For every dream you made come true
For all the love I found in you
I'll be forever thankful baby
You're the one who held me up
Never let me fall
You're the one who saw me through through it all

You were my strength when I was weak
You were my voice when I couldn't speak
You were my eyes when I couldn't see
You saw the best there was in me
Lifted me up when I couldn't reach
You gave me faith coz you believed
Em everything I am
Because you loved me

You gave me wings and made me fly
You touched my hand I could touch the sky
I lost my faith, you gave it back to me
You said no star was out of reach
You stood by me and I stood tall
I had your love I had it all
I'm grateful for each day you gave me
Maybe I don't know that much
But I know this much is true
I was blessed because I was loved by you

You were my strength when I was weak
You were my voice when I couldn't speak
You were my eyes when I couldn't see
You saw the best there was in me
Lifted me up when I couldn't reach
You gave me faith coz you believed
I'm everything I am
Because you loved me

You were always there for me
The tender wind that carried me
A light in the dark shining your love into my life
You've been my inspiration
Through the lies you were the truth
My world is a better place because of you

I'm everything I am
Because you loved me

im gonna get married tak lama lagi.. in few months time InshaAllah.. tak lama lagi hak milik diri ini akan bertukar dari hakmilik ummi abah, jadi hak milik mr fadhil-suami-to-be. i really feel thankful and grateful for all the things they had done for me.. for the love, the care, the happiness, the patience, and for everything.. every single thing they had done for me, that i cant even pay back.. just by thinking about them moved me to tears.. agak-agaknye bile hari nikah nanti nangis tak? both elder sisters of mine tak nangis pun mase nikah. hepi je. but i wonder camne lah time aku nanti ek... but i think i will cry hehe.

ummi abah, thank you..thank you so much for these 23 years of raising me with love and patience.. i love both of you so much and just so you know, now I'm Everything I am, Because You Loved Me.

thank you

May Allah bless you!

love,
The princess

teguhkan aku tuhan

Aku tidak seteguh mana…

Aku bukan malaikat

yang tidak dikurnia perasaan..

Aku bukan nabi

Yang punya keimanan dan ketaqwaan yang amat tinggi..

Aku hanya manusia biasa..

Imanku mungkin hanya senipis kulit bawang..

Taqwaku mungkin hanya ibarat percikan renyai hujan

Yang tidak mampu memadamkan api yang marak.

Ah

Aku ini hanya manusia lemah..

Hanya bergantung dan menagih kekuatan dariNYA..

Allah…

Tolong teguhkan aku..

Kurniakan aku keimanan dan ketaqwaan yang tinggi

Yang mampu menghapuskan segala kebathilan.

Harapan setinggi gunung ini ku taburkan

Hanya padaMU..

Izinkan aku untuk menjadi hambamu yang bertaqwa..

Sesungguhnya..

Aku lemah tanpa MU..

May Allah bless you!

love,
The princess

update cerita kawen ^^

In the name of Allah the most gracious

Assalamualaikum!

it have been such a long time since my last entry.. err not really long actually.. a month or two maybe. just to announce that am already engaged-already sumone's fiance! -unbelievable- =O
Alhamdulillah everything went well. Alhamdulillah.

update nak kawen ni.. alhamdulillah hal2 hantaran dah settle. dah beli semua and dah exchange the barangs with him. we both agreed to go for the fewest dulang of hantaran. which is 5-5. but maybe i will add 1 more dulang for him. so 5-6. i think '5' is the smallest number of dulang hantaran. yakah? tak penah dengar org bg hantaran 1 atau 3 dulang pun. my hantaran things are kasut, handbag+ purse, makeup set, watch (ni hadiah dari ummi abah), and the last dulang will be buah or cake or cholate-this one dulang dia akan tambah snirik. gambar my barangs tak sempat nk tgkp. lagi pun malas nak tgkp. so later lah bile dah kawen baru bg tgk hahaha.

hantarans untuk mr fiance pulak adelah kasut, watch, jubah+kopiah, kemeja+pant, and the other two dulangs will be makanan. untuk hantaran ni both of us decided to buy our own things and then exchange bende2 tu. its easier that way. so now barang2 semua dah ade. tinggal nak hias2 jadi hantaran je. inshaAllah kakak will help me in decorating the dulangs.

ape lagi pasal kawen ek.... ha, about MAHAR. mahar is ape2 yang pengantin perempuan mintak yang wajib ditunaikan oleh pihak lelaki. it can b anything. kalo bakal laki mu kaye raye, boleh la mintak kereta lamborghini, umah bungalow, tanah berekar-ekar. tapi kalo bakal laki mu tu tak mampu, mintalah mengikut sekadar kemampuannya sahaja ya. tapi kalo bakal laki tu kaye gile dan kamu pulak tanak lah mintak secara menggila, pun tak mengapa.. ape2 pun up to pengantin pompuan nak ape. for my part, mintak 1 je. cube teka amende... jeng jeng jeng... hihi. aku mintak surah ar-rahman dekat dy. he needs to memorize the surah hehe. mahar yang lain tu mcm yg dah ditetapkan oleh negeri selangor iaitu RM300. then he will give me a bracelet inshaAllah. but tats not part of mahar. just a gift from him (he said).

okes tats all for now. till the next entry.chau.

May Allah bless you!

love,
The princess

nothing-to-jot-down-nothing-to-share

In the name of Allah the most merciful

honestly....i have nothing to update... tapi macam da lama sangat tak apdet belog ini. aha just to share, inshaAllah my engagement (formal punye) will be on 24th april. this coming sunday. May Allah make everything easy for both of us.. amen.


May Allah bless you!

love,
The princess

err.. ENGAGED??

In the name of Allah the most merciful

After the families meeting, I asked fadhil about her mother’s , father’s and sister’s opinion on me and my family. His father’s and sister’s responds were positive. But for the mother, she still didn’t give the answer. Fadhil said, she just smiled.

The next day fadhil told me that her mother got good impressions on me. Alhamdulillah. But still not very sure whether she give the green light or not. I asked fadhil what were her mother’s expectations before meeting me. He said, her mother said:

“nak tengoklah ana ni pakai tudung ke tak, solat ke tak, baik budi pekerti ke tak…”

Expectations mak mertua selalunya ni je ek? Kalau ni je kan bagus.. senang sikit hehe. Actually im afraid if one day when im married, I cant get along well with my in-law. Ramai org yg hubungan dengan mak mertua tak berape baik…takut jugak nak berhadapan dengan situasi macam tu..

Huhu… May Allah make everything easy for me…

Kesimpulannye after the meeting of both families, me and fadhil concluded that both families had agreed to let us get married. For now Me and fadhil also agreed to take our relationship as ‘ENGAGED’, so that if anyone approach me or him, we can just tell them that we’re engaged. Its easier to turn down people’s proposal this way, because you have the strong reason to turn it down-which is engaged. Sebelum ni aku agak susah nak say NO bile org approach. Sebabnye rase tak sampai hati. Tapi sekarang dah rase senang hati nak say NO ^_^

ENGAGED-is not a special period. Selagi tak nikah, sama je. Kene jage hubungan antara lelaki dan perempuan.. engaged-tak membolehkan kite untuk g dating pun.. atau bergayut setiap malam, atau ber-sayang-sayangan atau bersentuh-sentuhan atau ber-smoochies smoochies. jadi, soalan cepumas.. nape ramai org suke wat majlis bertunang yang meriah2? Kadang2 nampak da macam majlis org kawen. Wow. Maybe they have their own reasons or gaya berfikir yang berbeza.. Hmm mungkin juge majlis tu mcm untuk meraikan hari yang menggembirakan dan lebih kurang mcm kesyukuran? (kena buat soal selidik untuk tahu). As for me, I think its better not to waste so much money into that, and instead save it for your BIG DAY-hari kawen. If your money is melimpah ruah pun kan, its better to save it for ur future big-family-to-be.

Actually I told fadhil that I taknak bertunang. But if family dy insist, then I will follow their wish. Many people might ask me, WHY TAKNAK TUNANG?? Even my besties pun kata bertunang jelah~

Bertunang tak salah disisi Islam. Tak salah langsung. The reason is just ME. I think it’s too TROUBLESOME nak buat majlis bertunang. Nak ada sarung2 cincin, pakai baju cantik2, etc… I don’t see any need to do that. I really don’t like to tire myself out for such buang-mase-things. Moreover, tak suke pakai cincin. Nanti nak amik wudhu’, nak basuh pinggan ape sumer tu kene bukak cincin. Then bile da siap, terlupe la pulak nak pakai balik. Pastu cincin pun ilang…~

So last2 both of us decided camni. If fadhil’s family insist nak bertunang, ok boleh bertunang.. tapi tak ikut adat org melayu bertunang. Maksudnye takyah wat majlis2. Just between family, takde baju2 cantik atau pelamin what-so-ever, err cincin tu pn kalo dpt tak pakai kot-so beli cincin murah je.  Pastu takde hantaran2 langsung. Kire dtg bwk cincin je. Simple rite? Yeah I loike! Hehe.

Daaa. Enuff for now. Wassalam!

May Allah bless you! 


 love, 
The princess

Meeting of the TWO families

In the name of Allah the Almighty

March 12, 2011 (Saturday nite)

Fadhil and his parents came to my house. My dad also invited our relatives over for dinner and he told them that …

“keluarga fadhil nak datang MERISIK ana”

“Merisik? Oh baru tahu ni namenye merisik eh?” I asked makngah.

Haha. Truly, taktau ni namenye merisik. I just tahu yang parents fadhil nak datang umah kenal2 dengan me and my family. That’s all.

They (fadhil n parents+sister) arrived at our house quite late. At about 21:15 because they had their dinner first before came to our house. Sigh~ they forgot that abah has invited them over for dinner. Fadhil was the only one who hadn’t had his dinner ahead.

Nervous? Nope. Tak rase nervous pun.

Mase mule2 dorg sampai, I x sambut pun dorg kat pintu.. mom and dad yang sambut. Then after a while, I showed up. Jeng jeng jeng ketibaan bakal menantu yang ayu lagi sopan!! Haha. I was wearing a white purple baju kurung. And so, heading towards the battle field (lounge where all of them seated together).

First skali Nampak fadhil. I looked at him (he was also looking at me) and I bowed my head a bit while smiling. Dup..dap..dup..dap… what the heck. My heart was beating so fast. That was the first time I felt something special towards fadhil. Pelik. Kenape tetibe rase sesuatu dekat dy? Padahal sebelum ni memang xde rase pape langsung. Rase perasaan kpd seorang kawan pn tade. Mase fadhil 1^st time datang umah jumpe ummi abah, I greeted him kat pintu pagar (that was the first time he came over to our house. Dy pn tak sure umah ktorg yg mane). I invited him inside and also hidangkan air kat ummi abah n fadhil. At that time, my feelings were ZERO. Nak tau tak rase macam ape? Rase macam sambut kawan kakak datang rumah. As if benda2 yang berlaku tu takde kene mengena dengan aku. Bukanlah nak suruh kena ada perasaan ape2. Tapi, nak tunjuk yang betul2 tak berperasaan, nervous ke ape ke memang takde. Seolah-olah macam fadhil tu datang umah untuk nak kawen ngan kakak, bukan ngan aku. Tak terase penting or what-so-ever.  Hohoho.

But this time…it felt different… he made my heart beat faster than usual. I think that was when I developed a little feelings towards him.

After  greeted fadhil (greeted by bowing my head), I greeted her mother and sister. Salam tangan with a smiled. But no words. Then greeted his father with a bow. Pastu g duduk dekat sebelah ummi (this time kena join the company). Mase tu rase malu sket. Sebab sume tengok i. huhu. Blushing.

After my mom n dad sembang sikit2 with his mom and dad, my parents invited them for dinner. Mase tu baru tau yang dorg dah makan. Tapi terpaksalah dorg makan lagi sekali. Masa tengah hiding-hidang makanan kat tempat perempuan makan, fadhil’s mother asked:

“ana ke yang masak?”

My mom answered:

“tak, dy demam hari ni”

Yes, sepanjang siang tu I tito. Memang demam pun sejak semalam. Kepale pening2 jadi tak dapat nak tolong masak.

After dinner, I served the guests with chocolate cake(made by my sis). When I served the men’s table, rasa nak pandang fadhil. OMG what have gotten into me?? Asyik rasa nak pandang. But I stopped myself from doing so. Kena jaga pandangan! And also, I don’t want to develop anymore feelings for him. Not before we declared as husband and wife. So concentrate jelah buat keje. Kang cake jatuh kau jugak yang malu.

The men and women duduk separately. I sat at the lounge with ummi, fadhil’s mom and sister, makngah, mak uda and wanchik. The conversation started. Yang banyak bersembang was kakak fadhil je. His mom tak banyak cakap.. memang pendiam kot. Tapi banyak kali fadhil’s mom pandang aku! Perasan je tapi buat-buat tak perasan haha. After some time mak uda duduk sebelah fadhil’s mom and sembang2 dengan dy. While the other semua sembang dengan kakak fadhil.

The ‘kenal-kenal’ event went well till 23:30. Fadhil’s family went home.. tutup tirai dah.. fuuh penat melayan tetamu.

After fadhil’s family dah balek, mak uda pun mulalah bukak cerita, hasil sembang2 dy dengan ummi fadhil. A few questions that his mom asked were:

ummiFadhil: Ana ngan Fadhil tu selalu ke keluar eh? Dah berapa kali dorg keluar dating?

Makuda: Eh takdelah. Setahu saya dorg tak pernah keluar2 ni. Ana tu pun bukan jenis yang keluar2 sangat.

UmmiFadhil: yeke.. baguslah Alhamdulillah… macam mana dorg kenal? Melalui kawan ke?

Makuda: mungkin lah kot.. yang tu saya pn tak sempat nak Tanya dengan ana.

UmmiFadhil: sebelum ni fadhil tak pernah kenalkan saya dengan mana2 perempuan.. dy memang takde lah siapa2 sebelum ni. Dy jenis yang tak berkawan dengan perempuan sangat, selalu g masjid, dengar ceramah, suka pada benda2 agama.. Tiba-tiba dy bagitahu saya yang hati dy dah terbuka nak kawen.. terkejut saya..

Makuda: oh yeke.. ana tu pun suka pegi2 dgr ceramah macam fadhil tu jugak. Padan sangatlah dorg tu. Eloklah kalau fadhil dah kata sedia nak kawen.. bagi jelah dy kawen..

Ummi fadhil:……………………………………

Aha another question yang fadhil’s mom kept asking was

“kenapa ana tak sambung belajar?”

Mak uda just said that I have my own reasons as to why. But she didn’t know exactly.

Yes. I do have my own reasons. If she (fadhil’s mom) becomes to be my mother-in-law, I will tell her later inshaAllah. But the truth is, bukan aku tak sambung blaja. I did. Degree in microbiology-UKM. But I didn’t finish it. I stopped half way. And I have my reasons =)

To be continued ^_^

May Allah bless you! 


 love, 
The princess

The Knight meets 'HER' parents

In the name of Allah the Almighty.

After both of us had decided to move on together to the next stage, I sent an sms to abah and ummi. I wrote:

“ummi, abah, ana nak kawen. To Fadhil, 29, an engineer.”

I purposely sent sms to abah because I really didn’t know how to tell him face to face. Me and abah are not used to duduk sembang2 about anything pun. Not so close in the eyes, but always close at heart J. Sebab mase kecik2 dulu dad selalu g outstation. And more, dy garang -_-. Jadi mase kecik dulu selalu takut je dengan abah bile dy ade kat rumah (-__-‘). So sampai bile dah besa camni, masih tak biasa nak cakap-cakap, sembang-sembang. Harap satu ari nanti, akan lebih rapat dengan abah. (my heart really wish for that day to come, where I can sit leisurely, telling stories and laughing humorously with him) oh dad~

After I sent the sms, mom gave a reply. She said:

“kalau agama dy baik, ummi ok je..”

I smiled.. Alhamdulillah J

I waited for abah’s reply…. But none came. Finally I get his reply the next morning.

His reply was:

“dy budak jamaah ke?”

……err……speechless….so this was the first question from abah. I really didn’t asked fadhil about his political stand. So I replied to abah saying that I don’t know. And I asked whether he wants to meet fadhil or not. He said “ok. Tunggu ummi balik”.

March 4, 2011 (Friday nite-8:30)

Fadhil came to my house (alone) to meet my parents.

I didn’t join the conversation so I didn’t really know the details. But according to fadhil, it was just a sembang-sembang, kenal-kenal. That’s all.

After the meeting I asked mom’s opinion on fadhil. Mom said

“ok lah, tak diam sangat, boleh masuk bersembang”

Then I asked ummi to ask abah terima fadhil ke tak. Again, I didn’t have the courage to ask him straight haha. Tak tau nak tanye camne kat abah. And more, malu nak tanye -__-

The next day..

Dad gave me the GREEN LIGHT!

Alhamdulillah everything went well so far..

So the next step in the next chapter is gonna b: ‘Meeting of the Two families’

May Allah bless you!


 love, 
The princess

'Taaruf' -PART 2-

 Mase mule2 nak g taaruf, melangkah masuk ke kedai makan tu first time ternampak Fadhil, hati aku secara spontan berbisik:

“this man is my future husband”

Ntah kenape benda tu terdetik di hati. Otomatik hati kata macam tu. As if there was a strong force that made my heart said that.

After the taaruf session ended, both of us agree to do istikharaa first before giving out the answer of whether to go on to next step together or stop rite there.

Daripada waktu taaruf sampailah lepas selesai taaruf dan pulang… my feelings were..

NOTHING.

ZERO.

EMPTY.

SPEECHLESS. – really didn’t know how to respond or how to act when Mr Im asked me my responds. Didn’t know what to say.

Eventhough I felt nothing, but it felt like sumthing was pulling me—to him.

I once asked my mom:

“kalau nak kawen kene ade rase suke ke?”

Mom:

“kene lah ade rase suke sikit.”

So lepas balik dari taaruf tu, I was in some kind of dilemma and worries. It was all because I have NOTHING for him. Absolutely NOTHING.  I thought:

I don’t even have the slightest bit of ‘like’ or feelings for him. So how am I going to marry him? What if I still have no feelings for him even after we get married? What if the feelings do not develop? How am I to live my whole life with him? Mcm mana nak layan suami tu dengan penuh kasih sayang jika xde rase sayang? Terasa berdosa jika x sayangkan dy dan berpura-pura…  Sangat takut jika xdapat sayangkan suami tu.. sangat takut jika tak memberikan hak seorang suami tu padanya (which is love).

I was confused. I then did my istikharaa and prayed to Allah a lot. I asked Allah to show me what should I do, to clear the clouds in my mind. I really didn’t  know what to think or what answer shud I give..

Alhamdulillah..praise to Allah, HE answered my prayers and showed me the way.

HE sent me the answers through a friend. I was shocked by my friend’s words, but it really clears out the clouds! When I was reading Quran, I also came to a few ayahs that showed me the way.

I thought that that might be the answer from Allah. That’s what Allah wants me to do.

Alhamduilillah… with every helps from Allah, I felt determined to make a decision and Alhamdulillah, I came to remember my intention of marriage. Mase aku tengah confuse confuse tu, aku terlupa pada NIAT asalku. Aku terlupa tujuan aku ingin berkahwin…dan aku terlupa…bahawa ..

ALLAH YANG MEMEGANG HATI-HATI KITA. DIA YANG MENENTUKAN SETIAP RASA YANG HADIR PADA HATI.

Jadi kenapa perlu risau? Jika kite bernikah kerana Allah, jika niat itu bersih keranaNYA, Allah pasti akan hadirkan cinta untuk suami isteri itu selepas berkahwin. Allah pasti akan memberikan barakahNYA pada pasangan yang bernikah kerana Allah.

HAVE FAITH IN ALLAH AND EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE!

FAITH. Yes that was what lack in me when I want to make the decision. Faith in Allah. Keyakinan adalah keimanan. Benda tu perlu ade pada kite.

Kini. Aku dah YAKIN!

I felt confident to gave Fadhil my answer. And ape yang bestnye, aku merasa tenang dengan decision yang aku buat. Aku merasa tenang untuk menerimanya, merasa tenang untuk menjadi permaisurinya!

So I sent an SMS tu Mr Im (our perantara):

“ I did an istikharaa. Alhamdulillah, rase OK. If mr Fadhil is willing to take my hand on marriage, then I will gratefully accept his hand.”

A few days after that I received a call from Mr Im. He said that Fadhil has gave his answer and decided to take my hand!

Alhamdulillah

Aku bersujud syukur.

Dan doaku moge Allah mudahkan perjalanan ini..

Jika ia baik untukku, Allah pasti memudahkan ia buatku..

Amen.

May Allah bless you! 


 love, 
The princess

'Taaruf' -PART 1-

A lot has been going around me lately. But have no time to write in blog, so there are mountains of stories to b told. This is my story, my way, my path of life~well this IS my blog anyway

February 19, 2011

Taaruf Day. It was Saturday and I was goin to meet a guy named Fadhil, accompanied by the match-making couple husband n wife, Mr n MRS Im. I came to meet this man with the sole purpose of marriage. And he also came with the same purpose. Many people might b wondering what is taaruf. Taaruf means ‘berkenalan’. In this case, the terms taaruf that I used is ‘berkenalan untuk berkahwin’.

No fooling around. It’s really for a serious matter-which is marriage.

Im a MUSLIM. And I want to follow the right way , which is the ISLAMIC WAY in everything we do. In Islam, there is nothing like fooling around, coupling here and there, dating here and there.  Jika perkahwinan dan cinta itu dimulakan dengan sesuatu yang Allah tak redha, I wonder apakah kesudahannya? Tiada kebahagiaan? Lahirnya anak2 yang super degil? Wallahua’lam, semuanya di tangan Allah. Kite buat je perkara yang DIA redhai inshaAllah, perkara yang baik akan menyusul kemudian.

So sambung cter, on that beautiful Saturday evening, we met (the four of us- fadhil, me, mr Im, mrs Im). Mr im act as a moderator. Mase tu I rase macam duduk kat forum pulak. The taaruf started with fadhil. He introduced himself, his family, his life, his work, his interests, etc…  when he was telling me his stories, I asked a few questions (macam bersembang lah). After he has finished, I then told him my stories, all about myself. During ‘taaruf’ session, we can ask anything we want. Any questions that we want to hear the answer so that we can convince ourselves to marry this guy/girl.

For Fadhil, he asked me, “what is your manhaj?”. He also asked questions to test out my aqidah. He wanted to make sure that im on the right path, and hold onto the right aqidah. Alhamdulillah, lepas lah test dy tu haha. Aha there was this question he asked to test my way of thinking:

“apa pendapat awak kalau berkahwin lain fikrah. Contohnya yang lelaki tabligh, yang perempuan pulak PAS. Sebab banyak kes yang berlaku, bila berkahwin lain fikrah tu, jadi pertembungan antara suami n isteri..”

I answered:

“it depends on the individual. If u ask me, I will say that perkahwinan lain fikrah takde masalah. May it be between tabligh n PAS, Tabligh and IKRAM, or PAS and IKRAM. As long as dua2 pihak terbuka, xdelah masalah. Sebabnye, yang membezakan antara fikrah2 tu ialah cara diorang. Masing2 pun tujuannye utk Islam, untuk Dakwah, untuk kebangkitan Islam. Tapi cara yang dorg gune utk capai matlamat tu berbeza. Jadi selagi mana mereka tetap berpegang pada aqidah yang betul, tetap berada di landasan yang betul, berlapang dada lah.. Hormati cara mereka. X payahla sampai nk gaduh. Masing2 kne open, berlapang dada..”

For my part, antara soalan yg ditanya adelah:

ME: saya selalu g usrah setiap minggu.. kadang2 malam, kadang2 siang.. kalau kte kawen, awak bagi tak saya g usrah? (niat di hati, kalau dy x bagi, tanak terima dy)

HIM: bagi je…saya pun ada ikut usrah sebenarnya..hehe. jadi takde masalah.

(dalam hati masa tu rasa sgt syukur dan relieved.. Alhamdulillah!)

ME: skg ni kan saye bekerja as a cekgu. Apa awak kata if one day after kawen, saya nak berenti keje n jadi suri rumah?

HIM: x kesah.. kalau awak nak keje saya bagi.. kalau awak taknak keje pun saya bagi.

(dalam hati: YES! Aku malas nak keje dah nanti)

ME: Ade niat nak berpoligami tak? Minta maaf, saye bukan mengharamkan poligami. Dalam islam mmg boleh. Tapi saya yang tak cukup kuat untuk berada disituasi tu. Trauma dah lepas tgk abah wat centu kat ummi. Jadi awak ade niat utk berpoligami tak?

HIM: haha. Takde pun.

(harap Allah benar2 jauhkan aku dari ujian tu….huhu… amen..)

Ok stakat ini sajelah untuk first part ‘TAARUF’. Will get back to u later and sambung part 2 inshaAllah

Goodbye mr blog.

wassalam